Even with us all knowing that what we see on out computer/phone/tablet screens is superficial crap we still feel the pangs of jealousy and longing for our lives to be just as perfect as everyone elses. I see families of perfect children smiling in perfect outfits in front of a perfect houses and cringe....why is that not us?
Why, why, why? Why are my kids messy? Why are the kids defiant? Why cant I manage to do my hair every day? Why am I not baking some awesomeness for my family? Why am I a short order cook? Why is the highlight of my day peeing alone? Why don't I have a bigger house? Why do I answer the phone like a nasty person? Why am I overweight? Why am I not into Crossfit? Why do I really love savory foods that then land on my hips? Why don't I home school? Why didn't I go back to school? Why WHY does everyone elses life look better then Mine?
Why? because its not reality. Because a lot of it is showing off. I'm not sure if we are looking for acceptance when we post how friggen awesome we are or some sort of validation. I'm lead to believe is a little of both, but we never realize how crappy we can make others feel....because no one is perfect.
I could go on forever on this but let me zoom in on the perfect family photo Phenomena. I actually do have a few beautiful family photos of the five of us frolicking in the sand. I don't know how people perceive us because I don't bother to ask and most of the time I don't care. Its possible that someone may be jealous of these gorgeous photos of us and our children, they look so perfect but let me break it down for you......
Get to the beach to meet our beautiful and talented photographer Kimberly Jean. My oldest is now off the wall hyper and excited to see her. Walk 10 miles to the beach site (ok not really) with 3 reluctant children who want Cheetos (they are wearing WHITE). Take pictures of the baby who is always pretty compliant as the two older children are running through beach grass and picking up tics I'm sure. Just as we are getting ok with the set up Mosquitos pop up. Because the photographer is smarter then me, she has bug spray on hand....now spray reluctant kids with bug spray, screaming ensues. Move to dunes....kids are rolling in dunes, I am having an anxiety attack at the thought of Lyme disease.
There are so many others that came out perfect through all that and I posted every single one of them to portray My perfect Family. I mean seriously, we look like some family models or something. Then Christmas came and I posted this one....
All of the above are split seconds of what looks like perfection.....in reality its just chaos, real life, honest to God chaos. Something we all live with and should embrace instead of trying to hide.
I stopped trying to be perfect on social media a long time ago. Some people think I'm nuts, I think its funny. I love to show off my messy life, maybe I'm looking for someone to tell me I'm not alone but maybe I'm helping someone realize They are not alone. I guess its another form of validation.
So yesterday I started #typicalmomcrap356 on FB, instagram, or whatever. At least one photo a day of my imperfect, mundane, typical, non pintersty mom life. I don't like feeling inadequate or imperfect and I don't want to ever make someone else feel like that.
So every day....the good, the bad, the ugly #nofilter
Find some awesome imperfection below!