Soooo You mean not EVERYONES child's bedroom door looks like this? I think people think I'm being crass sometimes when I talk about our life, but I cant help it. First let me say, I LOVE my life, I love my family and I love my children. Truth is I have to be honest....and honestly, some days suck and on those sucky sucky days I have to laugh and make fun of my situation.
Do you see that door?......Most people would NOT post that picture on the Internet. They also wouldn't admit to not fixing it because it gives me an easy way to watch my son when he insists on closing the door. Why do I put it up you ask......because I have to laugh at it. I have to laugh at it because the truth hurts. The fact that my child could lock a door and then proceed to turn the light off on himself but NOT be able to understand simple directions on how to turn the light back on. He was in there SCREAMING, at this point he was still really non verbal and only ecolalic. He screamed "turn the light on Frankie" "calm down, turn the light on Frankie"...after 45 minutes I broke the lock out. My husband later told me I should have called him instead of ruining the door, but I couldn't think, my only thought was to take a hammer to the door.
I've called my son Crazy or out of his mind (never in front of him) and I think people nervously laugh, thinking I'M the crazy one for saying that about my son, but they don't have children on the spectrum and there are days where he is CRAZY and I in turn am also crazy.
Yesterday Frankie threw a pillow at a candle before my sister in laws jewelry party. Upon learning of it I laughed and said to a stranger, "well I guess insurance would get her a new house, that would be awesome." The women looked at me like I was insane.....yea I made a joke lady, I made a joke because other wise I would cry. Lia hit her head, everyone freaked, she was fine....I told them shes resilient because her brother threw a toy stroller at her and she didn't blink an eye.....I laughed....they looked at me.
Maybe people think I am laughing at my sons expense, I am just being honest and trying to make it light hearted. I joke because its easier to say " Its ok if Frankie stays 3 forever, I love babies, I can cuddle with him when he is 30" then "my son will never grow up to live alone and have a job or give me grand kids". I wonder sometimes if people un-fan my page because of something I said that was not politically correct or filtered through rose colored glasses. I think most of you mommy's understand, I know you are there with me. One day the others will understand, we are not bitter or unhappy, crass or rude. We are just honest and honestly we have to laugh so we don't cry.